In the run up to the holidays, stresses seem to sometimes get the better of us. Conflicts at work tend to build as the winter months set in. Tensions at home can become increasingly strained with the pressure and stresses of the season. Extended family gatherings with their complex dynamics are just around the corner.
In all of our various contexts (at work, at home, in the community), there are difficult conversations that we are reluctant to engage in for a variety of reasons. Perhaps the timing isn’t right. Perhaps you fear (or know!) the other person will not be receptive.
The challenge is, of course, that the only person you really have any control over is yourself. And change only happens when the pain of not changing becomes greater than the fear of change.
So, as you contemplate change this season, this Forbes article is a great read about engaging in difficult conversations.
Ten Keys to Courageously Speaking Up About the Issues That Are Weighing You Down:
1. Check your ego. Set your intention.
2. Mean what you say.
3. Set the emotional tone.
4. Be vigilant of victims and villains.
5. Facts first.
6. Discuss the undiscussable.
7. Don’t stoop.
8. Counter defence with humility.
9. Be clear in your requests and commitments.
10. Stay future focused.